Words of Wisdom from Young Voices at SlutWalk San Diego

by on June 14, 2011 · 8 comments

in LGBT rights, San Diego, Women's Rights

Two of the event organizers, Pamela Doble and Anastasia Shevchenko - SlutWalk San Diego, June 11 2011. Photo by Frank Gormlie

In our coverage of SlutWalk San Diego we’ve noted the number of young people involved in this event. I want to give a more formal introduction to two of the young women that were involved in organizing this the movement in San Diego.

I met Pamela Doble and Anastasia Shevchenko for the first time at an organizing meeting held a little more that a week before the event was to take place. I was impressed by their enthusiasm and by the amount of work they had already accomplished. I can think of no better way to introduce these two young women than to let their own words speak for themselves. What follows is the text of the speeches they made last Saturday.

First of all, I want to say thank you to everyone who made it out today. Thank you to our allies, our volunteers, and all of our supporters.

People often ask me, “Why did you get involved with SlutWalk?”

I am a bi-racial, multi-cultural woman of color tired of being told that I’m fighting for “white girl problems.” I have been given the opportunity to speak for those who have been silenced. I am tired of being told that any outward expression of my sexuality is either wrong, disgusting, or shameful.

I think it’s safe to say that we have all come together today
Because we refuse to be victims
we are unapologetic.
we are not asking for tolerance
we are DEMANDING RESPECT for being who we are,
we are DEMANDING JUSTICE for the crimes committed against us,
and we are DEMANDING CHANGE to a society that alienates and oppresses us;
a society that teaches
“don’t get raped”
instead of
“don’t rape.”

Because we are tired of being objectified.
Because rape is NOT comparable to getting a flat tire.
Because we understand that sexual assault occurs in all cultures, all time periods, to all genders, to people of every race and ethnicity, and all across the globe.

This is a call to action
to educate our families,
to demonstrate with our friends,
and to liberate ourselves.

Pamela Doble, Organizer – SlutWalk San Diego

Welcome to Rape Culture U.S.A.,
Where anyone is allowed to proclaim
that every stitch of the blouse that you wore last night was asking for rape.

Now all the short skirts you possess
bear warning labels:
Do not mix with alcohol, dark alleys, or unstable
lovers because the result of your uncovered cleavage mixed with the chemical makeup of this particular guy on this particular night, at this particular time
will cause you to bring it upon yourself
Every perfume that is sitting on your shelf gives permission to be smelt from close proximity.
Every smile that you throw at any stranger has consent stored at the creases of your lips.

Should you go grocery shopping tonight, you shouldn’t
because what you buy might give away your secret desire to be preyed upon.
And if you haven’t gone on a date it a while,
you’re clearly in need of getting laid.

If you say that you love sex, then you have no limitations.
If you’re waiting for the right time then you’re prude and way too anxious about it.
Let your hair down for a change. Come on, it’ll be fun I swear.
And I no longer care to feed this fire of justification which fixates on
spoon-feeding sympathy to rapists.

We are taught to be victims before we know what victims are,
We must follow codes of conduct and pray to our lucky stars,
that the footsteps behind us won’t take away our liberation,
That our character won’t be judged by the tingling sensation in someone else’s underwear
and I swear
This is all about to change America,
It’s no longer about how I dress,
Or how much she drank,
or how much he flirted.

It’s not about promiscuity or anyone’s sexual purpose.
It’s about teaching our sons and daughters that rape isn’t a compliment.
It’s about changing the status of consent from choice to requirement.
It’s about silencing cat calls and feelings of entitlement.
It’s about ending this patriarchal trend of violence.

We are finished with this silence,
It’s now gone and won’t be missed,
because justifications of sexual assault don’t exist.

~Anastasia Shevchenko, Organizer – SlutWalk San Diego

Please see the Youtube video of the speech given by Foxxy LaDae, also!

{ 8 comments… read them below or add one }

annagrace June 14, 2011 at 12:23 pm

Pamela & Anastasia- Your clear voices stood out in a day filled with memorable speeches. I hope we hear more from both of you. Patty- thanks for getting the full text of these speeches!

PS- Foxxy LaDae- you provided important insight into US military culture and how allegations of rape by women in military service are handled. We had a chance to talk afterward about access to abortions by women in the military and I am particularly interested in your thoughts about the repeal of DADT, rape and the military culture. Please stay in touch with us. Check out the video of Foxxy’s speech here:


Patty Jones June 14, 2011 at 1:15 pm

Thanks, Anna, for sending the link to Foxxy’s speech. I’m going to put a link to it in the article.


Foxxy LaDae June 15, 2011 at 10:58 am

Hi Anna,

I have mixed emotions about DADT. I am very excited about allowing our LBGT community to be able to be out there. I know a few people who I served with who are part of this group and I love them just the same (I was never brought up with discrimination against this group of individuals so I have no sense of a “gay-dar”. I never knew the people I worked with were gay until after I got out of the Marines and they told me. LOL!).

However, if we think sexual assault is bad in the military now, when DADT is officially repealed this coming September we are going to be going through quite a sh*t storm. It is going to take time for DADT to be accepted, but we can at least soften the blow by taking care of military sexual abuse now.

All and all, I can say that I worry about the repeal. Not because I disagree with it, but because of the events that will come out of it.


annagrace June 15, 2011 at 1:53 pm

Thanks Foxxy. Can you give us an update about service women’s access to abortion? You mentioned a bill before Congress that would theoretically eliminate the obstacles to a safe abortion which women in the military currently experience. What do we need to know and what should we be doing?


Foxxy LaDae June 15, 2011 at 3:45 pm

As of right now, if a female soldier gets pregnant (rape or by accident) and wishes to abort the pregnancy, this must be done on the service members own dime. The government will not pay for this nor provide someone to see about it medically. As of right now, there is a bill in congress that is pushing to give female service members access to fully covered abortion if it be done on base or at a place off base.

The best way to help move this along is to write your congress man/woman about it. You can find more detailed info and reports on MilitaryTimes.com.

Also, if you know a service member who has suffered MST (military sexual trauma), please direct them to militarysexualtrauma.org. There is currently a lawsuit being filed by sufferers of MST against the government. They want as many survivors as possible.


annagrace June 15, 2011 at 6:22 pm

Thanks Foxxy! Our representative Susan Davis is one of the sponsors of the bill and I hope everyone contacts her. There is more background information on the subject here: http://www.prochoice.org/policy/congress/women_military.html

Jane Harman (D-CA) is the other co-sponsor. Sluts and supporters really need to check out this misogynist, racist hit piece against her, courtesy of Turn Right USA:


Holly Eskew June 14, 2011 at 1:53 pm

A culture that blames victims for being raped – for what they were wearing, where they were, and who they were with – rather than blaming the rapist is a culture that tacitly condones rape.


annagrace June 14, 2011 at 2:08 pm

I agree Holly. And that message needs to be repeated over and over again.


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