‘Rite Aid Carded Me When I Bought Beer and I’m a Great Grandmother!’

by on June 4, 2014 · 50 comments

in Culture, Ocean Beach, The Widder Curry

“You want to see my what??!!”

The most exciting thing that has happened to me in 50 years happened just the other day. Right here in our own Ocean Beach. I am still giggling as I write this report. Let me set the stage:

I am not a beer drinker. I will cook with it, but I do not think that I ever ordered beer to drink except when I went out with the man that became my husband back 40 years ago.

We were at the race track and he ordered a glass of the brew. Not wanting him to think that we did not have anything in common, I ordered one too. I didn’t want him to know that I didn’t like it so every time he went to cash a ticket – and he was lucky that day – I poured a little bit more out. When the glass was empty he asked me if I wanted another one, but I told him that one was my limit. As best as I can recall that was the only time I ordered a beer.

Recently I have gone back to on-line dating, in spite of my saying that I would not do so again. But I didn’t know where I could legitimately meet members of the opposite sex, and, at the same time, get fodder for my articles, so I returned to OKCupid, and Mingle, which are free sites, and Match.com, which is a paid service.

I have always made it a point not to communicate with men that do not live in San Diego. I am not interested in a long-distance relationship, but sometimes something is said that pique’s my interest. I am not going to talk about this one particular man yet; want to give me some time to see if anything develops, but suffice it to say this exciting experience the other day is all because of “Cowboy”; my new friend from, of all places, Fargo, North Dakota.

We have been talking – actually talking on the phone – as well as texting and emailing for some time now. He is an honest-to-goodness cowboy; lives on his farm where he raises goats, pigs, cattle, etc. (Like I have a lot in common with him, right?)

But somehow we got it in our heads that we should meet. First we talked about meeting in Las Vegas – but I really don’t like to fly. The cost for him to fly from Fargo to Las Vegas is about $550.I don’t think I am worth it. And the cost for me to fly to Las Vegas, without getting one of the Southwest “specials” is about $170. (I don’t think he is worth it.) But … lo and behold we found that he could fly from Fargo to San Diego for $410. And, without much thought, he booked his ticket.

And I will be soon picking him up at the airport. How will I recognize him? By his big black cowboy hat, of course. Or maybe by his red cowboy boots; or maybe by his cowboy shirt that has snaps, not buttons. None-the-less, he is coming to San Diego within the next 24 hours. For 5 days, no less. Hell! What am I going to do with a cowboy that has never been to San Diego – ever. That’s probably another story so won’t dwell on it now.

But what is so exciting. Unbelievable. \

I asked Cowboy what he likes to drink. “Bud Lite” was his answer. So that meant that I had to go buy beer because there sure isn’t any in my house. Irish Whiskey, Scotch, Bourbon, Tequila, Rum, Brandy, Vodka – all of these, but no beer. I remember once reading that our very own Rite Aid sells more beer than any other place around here. They are always having specials on that product.

So, I took myself to RiteAid – no construction this time around, and put a 18 pack of Bud Lite in my basket. (Well, he said he usually drinks about 3 a day times the 5 days he is here – figured that was about right.)

I took my purchase up to the cashier to pay, and guess what? Guess. Go ahead.

They wouldn’t sell it to me without a picture I.D!

I looked at them incredulously. I am a great grandmother and they wouldn’t sell me a case of beer without my driver’s license? You must be kidding, I said.

“No”, I was told, “beginning May 25th ALL people buying tobacco and/or alcohol products will be carded.” Do you believe that?

Hell, I was against CVS coming into Ocean Beach at the onset. If I am going to be carded, like my grandchildren, every time I purchase an alcoholic product at Rite Aid I will always do my shopping tat Rite Aid. I think I waltzed out of the store with a smile on my face. Might even go back tonight! Wanna join me?

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avatar Geoff Page June 4, 2014 at 10:17 am

Judi, this can get very old after the initial euphoria wears off. In Arizona, they have to request ID from everyone, regardless of age and it gets very tiring after the fourth or fifth time. This is another unfortunate result of a lawsuit I’m sure. I’d like to believe that anyone who can actually see could discern that, while I may not look my 63 years, I hope, I certainly look old enough to buy beer. I hope what you found out doesn’t mean we will all be subject to the same thing that has happened in Arizona. Hopefully, it’s just a Rite Aid policy, which means I won’t be buying any spirits there.

By the way, you should take this opportunity to educate this cowboy from Fargo about good beer, he’s coming to what has been called the craft beer capital of the U.S. It would be a shame not to sample real beer. Bud Lite is just badly flavored water.

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avatar unWAShedwalmartThong June 4, 2014 at 10:55 am

I love Budweiser because it has always been brewed right through a Clydesdale.

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avatar Geoff Page June 4, 2014 at 11:17 am

Are you sure you aren’t thinking of Corona?

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avatar Zach on the side June 4, 2014 at 8:48 pm

Haha, I’m sure every decent-sized town in the U.S. thinks of itself as the craft-beer capital. I can think of several off the top of my head.

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avatar Geoff Page June 5, 2014 at 7:56 am

You may be right, Zach, but there is actually something to it for San Diego. If you Google around you’ll find San Diego rated near the top in most surveys. I’ll admit that using the word capitol is probably a bit of hyperbole.

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avatar judi curry June 4, 2014 at 10:24 am

Ya know Geoff, I tried. Took him to Shades to see the waves and they didn’t have Bud Lite so he got a “Yellowtail.” Didn’t care for it. Tried a craft beer recommended by the waitress – didn’t like it either. Went to South Beach the next day and they had this long list of craft beers on the menu; ordered a Bud lite. I failed as an educator!

But you are right about the carding. It is ridiculous and my article was tongue in cheek. I wish they would start carding men when they order “Viagra.” That’s about as smart as carding a great-grandmother!

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avatar Geoff Page June 4, 2014 at 11:17 am

Well kudos for you in trying with the beer. I have a good friend who lives in Oxnard who only drinks Coors Lite and I have to apologize to the bartender whenever I buy a round, it is so embarrassing. I just say “He’s from Oxnard” and I get a knowing nod.

I’m staying out of the Viagra discussion.

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avatar cowboy June 4, 2014 at 10:48 am

Why you want guys carded for picking up their Viagra prescriptions for?
You want give women reason to “cheat”? Oh he didn’t have his Viagra and I was so horny I just had to go find someone to do me.
Hell! I don’t even need Viagra. So why they carding me? Just because they want to are how young I really am??

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avatar Goastskull June 4, 2014 at 2:19 pm

If you like coffee, they the brew known as “bacon and eggs” at Pizza Port. It’s good and makes it ok to drink beer first thing in the morning.

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avatar John June 4, 2014 at 7:40 pm

For sake of information and who to direct our ire at it would be helpful to know if this was brought on by state or federal law or if it is Rite-Aid’s overly paranoid corporate policy at work.
I remember when the 7-11 at Voltaire pissed off a lot of people by asking 60 year olds for ID before selling/giving them matches. It wasn’t the law but the owners’ overly reactionary interpretation of it. There is no reason to patronize a business owned by a fool, when their foolishness creates an unnecessary inconvenience for their customers.

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avatar judi curry June 5, 2014 at 9:39 am

Good point, John. I’m not carded any other place. Even the woman that carded me apologized. I was given a disclaimer from Rite Aid staring out with “Valued Customers . . . we will ID all for the purchase of any tobacco or alcohol products.”

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avatar Zach on the side June 4, 2014 at 8:57 pm

Good luck, lady! One wrinkle in your story, it’s the most exciting thing that’s happened in 50 years, but you got married 40 years ago!

Can’t say I care much for Bud Lite, but I understand that, after a lot of years, a person develops a taste for that one flavor, and then only that one can satisfy.

Looking forward to hearing about the Cowboy!

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avatar judi curry June 5, 2014 at 9:37 am

Well Zach, if you want to get technical – I was married to Ed for 10 years; married to Bob for 46. You’re the mathematician.

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avatar Dana Levy June 5, 2014 at 9:00 am

What with all the depression from Tuesady’s election still reverberating in my head it was fun reading your article and I am still amused by the whole episode, new guy included. Have a great weekend, Dana

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avatar judi curry June 5, 2014 at 9:33 am

Thanks Dana. I have to say I have never been in the 100% status before in any election. But I am this time. EVERY ONE of the people, or propositions I voted for, LOST! It wants to make me go back to Rite Aid and buy something stronger!

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avatar Debbie June 5, 2014 at 9:10 am

Judi, there was that place we went, right on the corner, not far from your house (they serve burgers, we sat outside, the owner – good looking ;). The beer there was really good served in a tall icy glass. It wasn’t a craft beer Jude and I ordered, but a very good pilsner non-the-less. I just can’t remember the name!

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avatar judi curry June 6, 2014 at 2:42 pm

Debbie, there is the smoothie place on the corner – or close to it – of Sunset Cliffs and Pt. Loma Ave. Wonder if that is what you are referring to. They are open for breakfast and lunch. Several different places have been there for dinner – but it was dark when I went by a few nights ago. I’ll have to check it out, but still don’t think I’ll order beer.

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avatar cowboy June 5, 2014 at 3:06 pm

your misbeliefs about me and your craft beers.
contrary to your belief, there is a reason for my liking bud lite over craft beers.
its called a medical problem. craft beers I’ve had are on tap. Seems that all tap beers , including bud lite, aggravates this medical problem. But no so if I drink beer out of a bottle. I know people in Colorado swear Coors is best beer ever made. But if you piss in Coors bottle and cool it down, those idiots don’t know the difference between piss and colors beer either.
Now I see some one said that bud lite is refined through a Clydesdale. Of course it it is, but did you know that the horse was on a diet too? The reason they chose to call that beer, bud lite.
Hopefully in next few weeksy medical problem will be history and I to will enjoy tap beer again. And if by chance some rich wealthy women invite me to San Diego again, at their expenses, I’ll be more than willing to share any and all of your local brews with you, so you and I may agree or disagree as to which brew is really the best that San Diego has to offer. I promise you, here and now bud lite will not have any effect on my choices of what kind is the best. So end of July you round up those rich wealthy women if you seriously looking for an older real cowboy to sample your home brews for an honest opinion of whose is the best.

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avatar Zach on the side June 5, 2014 at 10:28 pm

Are we to understand, Cowboy, that Bud Lite isn’t your favorite, but just a temporary choice?

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avatar Geoff Page June 5, 2014 at 3:19 pm

All I can say Mr. Cowboy, is that all of our craft beers also come in a bottle.

One of our most successful breweries, Stone Brewery, has a pretty good nationwide distribution network, I found their beer in a gas station quick stop store in a small town in Maine. I’m guessing they even have some in your part of the world. If not, there are two craft breweries in Fargo you can try, Fargo Brewing Company and Granite City Food & Brewery. Any craft beer is better than any mass produced American “beer” such as Budweiser. Give ‘em a try, you might like them.

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avatar John June 6, 2014 at 7:41 am

Craft Beer, schmaft beer, everyone knows the only one you really taste is the first. (when I drank, which ended 14 years ago, it was usually a heineken or beck’s though lowenbrau or michelob would do in a pinch) After that Bud Light would be fine, Coors Banquet (light too watery for me) if it was on sale Ice House Ale in the bottle was great. If it was before payday LUCKY LAGER baby, love the puzzle caps and the best kept secret way back when was “scotch buy” beer at the old safeway right in OB. $1.50 a six pack.
The reality is some folks want their beer to go down smooth and don’t want to drink liquified brown bread or bowls of spice and potpourri- insisting they are the lesser for it just smacks of hoi polloi elitism, which I guess was inevitable when the smoking ban in nightclubs ended the trendy cigar fad.
Like wine tasting the whole thing seems to be a sly way to elevate the activity to a higher level than simply being a drunk.

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avatar Zach on the side June 6, 2014 at 9:06 am

Nothing tastes like an IPA. I’m not much for beer, but I’ll always welcome an IPA.

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avatar Kay Cee June 8, 2014 at 3:59 pm

“…the only one you really taste is the first.”

Um…you ARE joking…right?
May be true of some beers, but certainly not all. And preferring some of the beers you show such contempt for doesn’t mean someone is an elitist.

Not everyone drinks every day, or to get drunk. If I’m going to have an occasional beer, yes, I’d like it to be a really good one.

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avatar Geoff Page June 8, 2014 at 7:32 pm

I agree with Kay’s comment on this. There is a difference between drinking to get drunk and drinking for taste with a nice buzz. Drinking to get drunk requires quantities because the more you drink, the more you need to drink to get drunk. This is where economy becomes an issue as it would be very expensive to be a drunk on good craft beer and it would be a waste of good beer. So, we are talking about two very different products here where one is a tool and the other is a sensual pleasure like a good meal. Kind of like comparing a fast food meal you eat because you need lunch to sustain yourself and a gourmet meal where sustaining yourself is not the motivation.

As for the similarity to wine tasting, I for one am delighted that the American craft beer business finally took off. I don’t think beer drinkers will ever become like wine drinkers but we can at least now have a great variety of beers to chose from, American beers that is. Personally, I an’t imagine spitting out any good beer.

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avatar rick June 6, 2014 at 10:00 am

You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink.

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avatar judi curry June 6, 2014 at 2:42 pm

Particularly if it comes out of a San Diego tap!

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avatar Geoff Page June 8, 2014 at 9:04 pm

Amen to that brother Rick.

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avatar K Smith June 6, 2014 at 4:52 pm

Fun article and remember that it is about ridiculous requirements and customs.
Someone from France, Italy or Brasil would be shocked and laugh.
I stand in a long checkout line for 10 min kicking my 30 pack of Nattie Light along.
I get carded at OB’s busiest liquor store. So be it.
Paradise carries a price.

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avatar judi curry June 6, 2014 at 10:08 pm

Thanks K. I wrote it “tongue in cheek” – and agree that it is about ridiculous requirements. I wonder how long it will last.

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avatar judi curry June 7, 2014 at 1:51 pm

NOTE: I RECEIVED THE FOLLOWING MESSAGE FROM RITE AID. THOUGHT SOME OF YOU MIGHT BE INTERESTED IN WHAT THEY HAD TO SAY:

Yes, as you’ve discovered, , Rite Aid has decided to transition to a policy of asking all customers, every time, for their identification when they wish to purchase any tobacco or alcohol product. We believe this approach will ensure we are meeting every local, state and federal law prohibiting the sale of these products to underage customers. I apologize for any inconvenience this may put upon you.

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avatar Geoff Page June 8, 2014 at 9:05 pm

Rite Aid just guaranteed it won’t get my alcohol dollar, but it wasn’t getting it anyway so not a big loss I guess.

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avatar Gil Field June 7, 2014 at 5:26 pm

Judi, when I get carded (at 65) at Rite Aid near my home, I always tell them that although I am under age, the beer is for my dad.

Never fails to amuse.

Best to you.

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avatar judi curry June 7, 2014 at 5:33 pm

Great retort! Love it.

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avatar cm June 8, 2014 at 12:01 am

Being a customer who gets carded for beer every time when you definitely know you look old enough that there isn’t any doubt that you are over the age limit would get old, but on the other hand, the Rite Aid workers HAVE to do it or they could lose their jobs. It’s not their fault that they are required to do it. If you think it is going overboard on Rite Aids part, contact them and let them know how you feel, but don’t give the cashiers a hard time about it, it can be very upsetting for them if customers give them a hard time because of Rite Aid policy.

A family member works for Rite Aid and in the past couple of weeks has had customers walk out and/or give her a hard time for having to card them, it makes it a hard work day!

To contact Rite Aid, go to https://www.riteaid.com/customer-support/contact-us ad let them know what you think.

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avatar Kay Cee June 8, 2014 at 4:05 pm

All it takes is ONE mistake – one sale to someone who looks older, but is actually under 21 – and they lose their license to sell alcohol, for a long, long time. Some stores have gone out of business thanks to the loss in income.

Don’t blame Rite-Aid – blame laws that penalize the store, rather than the underage idiots who cause the problem.

Making a scene or getting angry when asked for ID – at any age – just makes you a jerk, and somewhat stupid. After all, throwing a tantrum or walking out takes quite a bit longer than simply showing your ID. And it only wastes your own time, while making someone completely blameless miserable.

Learn some manners. And don’t take it out on the people who aren’t at fault.

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avatar cm June 8, 2014 at 7:46 pm

Thank you, KayCee!

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avatar The One Who Cards You June 8, 2014 at 9:38 pm

Thank you, Kay Cee!
You explained it perfectly!

I’m a cashier at Rite Aid, and as hard as it has been for the customers, it’s been just as hard on us to card every person, every time.
And having someone get mad just makes it ten times worse!
I’ve had people yell at me and walk out in the middle of their purchase.
And it makes me feel bad. The last thing I want to do is make someone upset!

And as tired as people are of hearing “May I see your ID?”, it’s no easier saying it.
I’m so used to saying,”May I see your ID again, please?” to the regulars that I’ve actually added “again” to the end when requesting it from people I haven’t carded before, haha.

Yes, it’s a hindrance on both ends, but it’s our job to ask you every time, no matter who you are.
So please try to be good humored about it! We’re only doing our job!

*The statements above are my opinion, and do not necessarily reflect that of my employers, coworkers, etc.
I represent myself, no one else!

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avatar judi curry June 8, 2014 at 9:11 pm

Ya know, Kay, I can see where there might be some question about a young looking 30 year old. being carded. But let’s face it – at 70+ there is no chance that anyone is going to think I need to be carded. And the fact that the clerk was apologetic about it only points up the fact of how ridiculous this whole thing is. Of course it is the corporation; not the clerk. I didn’t get angry; I laughed. I’m still laughing. It isn’t like there is no other place to buy alcohol in San Diego. Someone at Rite Aid needs to do another interpretation of the law. At least we know they are aware of feelings from their patrons.

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avatar The One Who Cards You June 8, 2014 at 9:46 pm

Judi, I dearly wish more people were as good humored about it as you are!
So many people get mad at the cashiers for it when we’re just doing our job.
I love it when customers can laugh about it!

Your article made me smile. Good luck with your cowboy! :D

*The statements above are my opinion, and do not necessarily reflect that of my employers, coworkers, etc.
I represent myself, no one else!

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avatar judi curry June 9, 2014 at 9:24 am

Thank you. I just can’t see how anyone can fault the clerk for rules set up by the corporation. We all try to do our jobs, whether we disagree or not. I thought it was funny; I still think it is amusing. But my beef is with the corporation, not the personnel at the store. Judging by the answer I received from the Corporation, they really don’t care about the inconvenience caused by their ridiculous rule and will continue carding everyone.

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avatar cm June 8, 2014 at 10:31 pm

judi curry, I’m glad you didn’t get angry and thank you for that, but there are a whole lot of people who do get angry, walk out, and say things that the cashier just has to stand and take but can’t do anything about. I understand what you’re saying, but Kay is saying, like I did in my post, the cashier can’t change the corporation’s policy. Yes, it is ridiculous, but the cashier is only trying to earn a living and to keep their job they have to abide by the policies of the company. Yelling at the cashier or giving them a hard time does just waste time and upset the cashier, AND Rite Aid does not even know it happens! I don’t think the store workers like the new policy any more than the customers, but as a worker said, they can’t just let it slide and not follow the policy and lose their job, that job is how they pay their bills and live!

They do appreciate everyone that understands it is not their fault that they have to card everyone every time.

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avatar Tyler June 9, 2014 at 10:08 am

Don’t hate the player, hate the game, as they say. The US gov’t was stupid to basically force a policy on all retail/restaurants that if the person looks under 40, you have to card them. Certain businesses are extra worried and like Rite Aid, decided to just card everyone. A lot of my family is European and they laugh when they come to the States.

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avatar cm June 9, 2014 at 2:40 pm

I agree Tyler!

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avatar Zach on the side June 9, 2014 at 10:41 pm

The least RiteAid can do is put a sign at the register, “It’s store policy to ask EVERY customer for ID when purchasing tobacco or alcohol products. Please understand the cashier is ably performing his or her duties. RiteAid thanks you!”

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avatar cm June 10, 2014 at 6:04 am

Yes, they should! Hopefully they will see this and do it!

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avatar The One Who Cards You June 10, 2014 at 11:55 am

Zach, I don’t know about other Rite Aid stores, but our store does have a small sign that says something similar that sits on top of the receipt printer. :)
It says something along the lines of Rite Aid is doing their best to comply with state and federal laws, so we’re gonna card you, every sale, every time, every person, for the sale of alcohol and tobacco. It doesn’t defend the the fact that the cashier is just performing his/her duties, but I really think it should, because I’ll point out the sign to difficult customers, and they still act like I’m carding them for my own amusement!

We also have a sign on the front door. The only thing I can complain about that sign is that it’s on the lower half of the doors, so unless you’re 4 years old, you’re probably not going to notice it! I don’t know if we’re allowed to put signs on the upper half of the door or not, but I think it would be a MUCH better place.

*The statements above are my opinion, and do not necessarily reflect that of my employers, coworkers, etc.
I represent myself, no one else!

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avatar The Other One That Cards U August 3, 2014 at 9:21 pm

So I work for RA as well and we have been told this is a new state law. Does anyone know if this is true? Not only do we have to card but also make sure the license is valid. You have no idea how many people have expired licenses. And yes I do card. I don’t agree with this policy but I do card.

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avatar judi curry August 4, 2014 at 2:55 pm

I just got off the phone with the ABC. There is no law, per se, that tells a company that they have to card all buyers of liquor. However, if the company is caught selling liquor to someone underage, and the clerk did not ask for proper ID, they have no chance of winning the case. If the buyer is obviously over the age of 21 – like in my case – an ID does not have to be asked for. If a valid ID is asked for and what is shown has expired, liquor cannot be sold to that person. Again, however, if you look older than the buying age, an ID is not necessary. The code explaining this is 25.660 – under the business and professional code section. Of course Rite Aid – and others – have decided what they want done and are in their right to ask for ID.

Hope this clears up the question. Judi

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avatar aaron saxton August 7, 2014 at 10:24 am

the policy is disgusting.

4 years, 3 trips a week to the same RITE AID – so 600 trips. They know me.

Every time now I have to present I.D. Why? Have I changed identity or age since yesterday?

they say “with us it’s personal”. No it is not, it is a policy that has no purpose.

I am thinking of suing them for allowing my wife to use my rite AID card without viewing I.D..

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avatar judi curry August 7, 2014 at 3:48 pm

I agree. It’s a stupid policy.

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